Tantric Tools for MASTERY
In my work with tantra I have deeply experienced and feel that allowing more intimacy and pleasure in our lives is the doorway to real transformation.
As human beings we each have a natural ability to give and receive pleasure and to gift that to each other. As infants we were all born open, vulnerable and loving, our bodies were naturally wired from head to toe to experience full-bodied pleasure.Then as we become adults we slowly lose these sensory connections and develop our habitual patterns of closure in our bodies and our minds.
It’s as if by the time we are 4yrs old through our parental and cultural beliefs and conditioning we all start to develop impenetrable walls that surrounds us, which by the time we are teenagers has us enveloped in layers of invisible wounds. So whenever someone touches one of these wounds unexpectedly, as so often happens in our intimate relating we instinctively contract and recoil like the sea anemone back into our shells. Or we react and angrily hit back at the others wounds, as we aggressively defend ourselves from further injury.
This process continues over time and each relationship we enter into adds to the injury of these sensitive delicate areas that never really have a chance to heal, we then build even thicker walls to enclose ourselves in. Slowly our entire bodies become covered by these wounds that are very painful to be touched. To make matters worse we look around and see everybody is the same they are all suffering just as much and are under the same cultural trance and we begin to think that this condition of suffering and pain on planet Earth is actually normal.
It’s as if by the time we are 4yrs old through our parental and cultural beliefs and conditioning we all start to develop impenetrable walls that surrounds us, which by the time we are teenagers has us enveloped in layers of invisible wounds. So whenever someone touches one of these wounds unexpectedly, as so often happens in our intimate relating we instinctively contract and recoil like the sea anemone back into our shells. Or we react and angrily hit back at the others wounds, as we aggressively defend ourselves from further injury.
This process continues over time and each relationship we enter into adds to the injury of these sensitive delicate areas that never really have a chance to heal, we then build even thicker walls to enclose ourselves in. Slowly our entire bodies become covered by these wounds that are very painful to be touched. To make matters worse we look around and see everybody is the same they are all suffering just as much and are under the same cultural trance and we begin to think that this condition of suffering and pain on planet Earth is actually normal.
When it comes to our love lives is it any wonder things do not always work out as planned. As in order to relate to one another we need to be continually protecting our delicate wounds, and the very things that we need to experience which is the closeness and intimacy we actually pull back from and don’t allow because it hurts. But still, the instinct to love is so strong that we willingly put ourselves back out there again and continually pay a very high price to be in relationship.
Thankfully, the good news is that there is another way and tantra can provide us with the tools to help heal our wounds and to take the steps to mastery in love and relationships.
To become a master of anything we need to practice, and to master love we need to practice love, and this is not so much about concepts and knowledge but about taking action.
Here are some brief practices you can start to do with your Beloved. (If you are alone you can do it with a mirror as if You are the Beloved!)
Sit or lay close together, facing each other, looking softly into each other’s eyes. Breathe several slow breaths, in and out. After a few moments, take turns saying your Beloved’s name out loud, three times, as if you are offering their name to them as a precious gift. Listen to your Beloved saying your name as one Soul calling to Another.
After you have done this for few times notice any sensations in your body, sexual or otherwise, and, describe them out loud, continuing to look into each other’s eyes.
This is what may happen.
At first your partner has a name.
Then the name dissolves and there is just the being in front of you.
Then this being, and yourself, starts to feel more like you are just energy.
Then your energies start to dance together and dissolve into each other.
Two energies dissolved into each other - until there is just one energy.
When this has happened let your eyes gently close and if you experience a heightened sense of Love, a deeper feeling of each other’s presence, let that love expand outward with you radiating at the centre.
Remember to finish by touching, acknowledging and celebrating the three energy centres of Sex, Heart and Third Eye!
After you have done this for few times notice any sensations in your body, sexual or otherwise, and, describe them out loud, continuing to look into each other’s eyes.
This is what may happen.
At first your partner has a name.
Then the name dissolves and there is just the being in front of you.
Then this being, and yourself, starts to feel more like you are just energy.
Then your energies start to dance together and dissolve into each other.
Two energies dissolved into each other - until there is just one energy.
When this has happened let your eyes gently close and if you experience a heightened sense of Love, a deeper feeling of each other’s presence, let that love expand outward with you radiating at the centre.
Remember to finish by touching, acknowledging and celebrating the three energy centres of Sex, Heart and Third Eye!
Enjoy.
Namaste!
