THE BENEFITS OF SELF PLEASURE

Recently, it was reported that Australian doctors have found a preventative measure for prostate cancer in men  - daily masturbation.

They found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20's reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.

Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, also found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.

It seems that masturbation can be a life saver because it prevents the buildup of carcinogenic substances in the prostate. By masturbating frequently you release these toxic substances and help keep your prostate healthy.

Far from being a means to simply enjoy physical sensation masturbation can also be a process to improve your health and well-being. Betty Dodson the American expert who wrote the classic Sex for One says it is a tool for singles to become self-dependant and not need a partner to satisfy them sexually. You can therefore become responsible for the fulfillment of your own desires, if you enjoyed sex with a partner then masturbation could be a bonus.

One of the many causes of frustration and unhappiness sexually in peoples’ lives is their romantic fantasies that some day someone will materialise who will solve all their problems and fulfill all their wishes. No one is coming to solve our problems. If we don’t do something to help ourselves then nothing is going to get better. The great advantage of accepting this is that now the power is put fully back into your own hands. Don’t wait for someone to fulfill you sexually because that is a very dis-empowering place to be and only leads to frustration, passivity and helplessness. You alone are responsible for your own erotic health and sexual education.

In particular, I think that women still avoid facing their own situation about what is happening for them sexually due to personal fears and blockages that are both collectively and individually reinforced. All women and men need to explore and develop their own erotic energy independently of what they may be doing with a partner.

Here are some of very good reasons why you should self-pleasure, if you really needed any. From my own practice of sex and intimacy coaching, these are some of the better ones:

1)    It feels really great and teaches you what turns you on and what doesn’t.

2)    You can shed your inhibitions and really let go and just experience pleasure without the pressure of peformance or pleasing another.

3)    It releases stress and tension and lowers blood pressure.

4)    It is completely safe and risk free as you don’t need to go out looking for a suitable partner.

5)    It expands your potential sexually because you can try different techniques.

6)    It helps you sleep better, the chemicals released during orgasm induce relaxation and promote deeper sleep.

7)    It improves circulation throughout your body and gives your skin a radiant healthy glow.

8)    It releases beneficial hormones and balances their functions and levels.

9)    It is free.

   10) You can become the master of your own pleasure.

The power is in your hands!

THE LIBERATING POWER OF TANTRA

THE LIBERATING POWER OF TANTRA 

by SONIA

It has been said that women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex.

Obviously, both come from different perspectives (Venus and Mars).

Yet the common denominator is sex. And here there should be agreement. However there is so much discord here. Most women are not satisfied and more than 70 percent said that they did not orgasm. In contrast men are more easily satisfied-mere penetration followed by ejaculation would do.

However, women have more complex notions. Many women feel that penetration does not equate with orgasm. It even goes beyond that as women feel that beyond orgasm there should be other qualities like tenderness, attentiveness and generally a feeling of being appreciated.

Enter the world of Tantra. Here the ancient art of sex elevates the men and women to a higher plane then merely some form of evolved animal. In fact Tantra treats men and women as Gods. So both sexes should appreciate themselves more and see the sex act as only part of a greater goal - a union.

It's no coincidence that the Indians use” congress” as the word to describe the sex act. It's neither the f word nor “doing it”. That's banal. Congress is loftier.

The Indians got it right. Sex is more than penetration. It is part of a greater process of union. Hence the ancient Indian texts like the Kama Sutra called intercourse an act of Congress - that means to unify. And that is the core of Tantra.

Men and women are one. They are not from Mars or Venus, as some Western philosophers would have us believe. Just as a man has a feminine side, so too do women have a masculine side. And as if to bestow to sex the rightful regard it deserves, men are Gods and women Goddesses according to Tantra.

The Tantric exchange is seen as a holy one where men and women bless each other physically, mentally, spiritually and energetically. More than that Tantra unites the sexual and spiritual sides of men and women into one. In Tantra sex it is a holy pursuit that turns making love into a loving meditation. It changes the whole nature of a sexual exchange and brings the spiritual aspect of lovemaking into our every day lives.

The way to learn all of this is to get some Tantric coaching. First you must forget all assumptions you have acquired about sex. Then step into a whole new world where you and your partner discover a new experience. Just a peak - orgasm is not the main goal in Tantra but you can (men and women) have multiple orgasms. Workshops and classes in tantra generally teach breathing techniques, how to channel energy, communication processes, non-ejaculatory orgasms for men and full body orgasms for women.

The deep benefits of studying tantra that I have witnessed is that many partnerships have been saved and helped by attending tantra classes and workshops, as couples learn a gentler, more nourishing form of union that embraces subtler energy and honours the God/ Goddess (Shiva and Shakti) coming together in holy union during lovemaking.