by SONIA
It has been said that women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex.
Obviously, both come from different perspectives (Venus and Mars).
Yet the common denominator is sex. And here there should be agreement. However there is so much discord here. Most women are not satisfied and more than 70 percent said that they did not orgasm. In contrast men are more easily satisfied-mere penetration followed by ejaculation would do.
However, women have more complex notions. Many women feel that penetration does not equate with orgasm. It even goes beyond that as women feel that beyond orgasm there should be other qualities like tenderness, attentiveness and generally a feeling of being appreciated.
Enter the world of Tantra. Here the ancient art of sex elevates the men and women to a higher plane then merely some form of evolved animal. In fact Tantra treats men and women as Gods. So both sexes should appreciate themselves more and see the sex act as only part of a greater goal - a union.
It's no coincidence that the Indians use” congress” as the word to describe the sex act. It's neither the f word nor “doing it”. That's banal. Congress is loftier.
The Indians got it right. Sex is more than penetration. It is part of a greater process of union. Hence the ancient Indian texts like the Kama Sutra called intercourse an act of Congress - that means to unify. And that is the core of Tantra.
Men and women are one. They are not from Mars or Venus, as some Western philosophers would have us believe. Just as a man has a feminine side, so too do women have a masculine side. And as if to bestow to sex the rightful regard it deserves, men are Gods and women Goddesses according to Tantra.
The Tantric exchange is seen as a holy one where men and women bless each other physically, mentally, spiritually and energetically. More than that Tantra unites the sexual and spiritual sides of men and women into one. In Tantra sex it is a holy pursuit that turns making love into a loving meditation. It changes the whole nature of a sexual exchange and brings the spiritual aspect of lovemaking into our every day lives.
The way to learn all of this is to get some Tantric coaching. First you must forget all assumptions you have acquired about sex. Then step into a whole new world where you and your partner discover a new experience. Just a peak - orgasm is not the main goal in Tantra but you can (men and women) have multiple orgasms. Workshops and classes in tantra generally teach breathing techniques, how to channel energy, communication processes, non-ejaculatory orgasms for men and full body orgasms for women.
The deep benefits of studying tantra that I have witnessed is that many partnerships have been saved and helped by attending tantra classes and workshops, as couples learn a gentler, more nourishing form of union that embraces subtler energy and honours the God/ Goddess (Shiva and Shakti) coming together in holy union during lovemaking.
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